Be The Bigger Person When Handling Conflict


CC Image courtesy of Patrick Marlone on Flickr

CC Image courtesy of Patrick Marlone on Flickr

You hear of lovers brawls in the news and you see reality stars fighting for all sorts of reason. Being rude isn’t only allowed, it’s been sensationalized by the media as well. It’s no wonder why so many people think it is okay. Well, it’s time to change things because there’s no excuse for that kind of behavior.

When you go out with your spouse, treat them with kindness. You need to coexist with everyone in this world. Otherwise, it’s going to be a lonely ride for you. Don’t just rely on technology to communicate with them. Some things are still better said in person. Remember, the way you act is indicative of the kind of person you are. You get respect by being respectful.

It’s Never Okay

Then, there are those that say being rude is okay simply because they feel that that they’re on the right side. Your spouse has feelings, and who knows, you might actually slip someday and would need their compassion as well. If your spouse remembers that one distasteful encounter, they are not always going to bend over backwards to do things for you.

As big as the world is, you still run in the same circles, share the same set of friends. So, just tread carefully and make it a point to consistently be nice. If you need to say something that could be unpleasant, be careful with your words. Think about what comes out of your mouth because there’s always a way to be frank yet tactful.

Make It Pleasant

Unpleasant encounters happen to everyone. You open the door for someone, and then you suddenly find yourself steamrolled by a large group of people. So you make the mental note never to be nice time and again. You have to understand that no two people are alike. You’re also surrounded by rudeness. Still, this doesn’t give you the right to sink to their level. Regardless of the outcome you get, it’s always best to be nice. More importantly, you need to give people the benefit of the doubt. There’s often a good explanation as to why they reacted the way they did. Then, check yourself every now and then. You’re more likely to get what you want when you’re vigilant about your attitude.

Some people spend so much time pointing out the mistakes of others that they aren’t aware of their weaknesses. Never be this kind of person. At this point, hone in on your personality, work at becoming better, and know that there’s no excuse for being rude.

So what if not every person is this way? Then let these people deal with the repercussions while you go about your daily life.

Just keep thinking about the long-term effects of having an attitude change. Stop being rude and you’ll slowly start to earn the respect of the people that love you most. Your spouse will go out of their way for you, and that’s because they genuinely care for you. If they abuse your kindness, then it may be time to move on and look for someone who does appreciate the change. You’ve earned respect and it’s time to get what you deserve.